Mature sex casual encounters qldAsk MetaFilter querying the hive mind. Well, first of all, if you go the prostitute route, it IS actual cheating, not "emotional cheating. If she is against it, then you need to decide if you can let your fantasy go or want to break up. If fulfilling the fantasy is more important than the relationship, you need to talk to her. So, fantasize about it. Not doing all the shit you think about doing or want to do is part of growing up and being an adult. I mean, condoms are really quite effective, so from that angle I wouldn't be too concerned.
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But this is something that is outside the current terms of your relationship, and at the very core of your question is the idea of "I know I shouldn't do this thing, I know it would be incredibly damaging to my relationship with, and very disrespectful of, this wonderful person, but I really want to get to do it. But just don't do anything unless you've broken up with her. A Remain faithful to the terms of the relationship B Break up and have the NSA fling C Have the fling but don't tell your girlfriend Note that A could include negotiating some kind of agreement about what you do when you're not around each other, although you seem to think that will not go well, and I agree with you. Talk to a therapist about these obsessive thoughts.